I think it’s pretty safe to assume that most marriages out there have seen an instance where sex was used as a weapon at some point in time, right? For example, when a BIG argument breaks out and the individual who is “wrong”, just won’t admit it or apologize, and the other individual who is “right” rules out “SEX” for a night or two.

Obviously there are a ton of different tactics and what I like to call, “weapons”, that we use to make a point in an argument. The worst weapon is withholding sex from one another and Paul explains that in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5. Paul mentions in that scripture how Satan can tempt us with sexual immorality because our lack of self-control when we go without sexual relations with our spouse.

Sometimes the tactic of withholding sex can turn into a bad habit where we decide to do it on a regular basis because it’s so effective! As Christians we are called to fulfill our spouse’s sexual needs, and more importantly, we give authority over our body to them as well. At what point do we stop using sex as weapon and begin to fulfill our biblical role in that department?

We already know that the “no sex for you” decision comes during an argument, so when things seem to be getting that intense, it’s probably best to call a time-out or take a step back and come back to it when you both have cooler heads. You want to find a solution quickly but at what cost? Ephesians 4:26 – And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry

A simple solution is to show your spouse that you love them, regardless of the issue or the misunderstanding, and your goal is to solve the problem and not hurt them or your marriage.

Ephesians 4:1-4 – Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God. Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future

Ephesians 4:31-32 – Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Make LOVE your next weapon! :)

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